One of the first issues that needs to be addressed when a couple first
embarks on a male chastity lifestyle is male orgasm denial and how long it should be for.
In order to adequately address this question, it’s wise to take a step back
and determine what the man had in mind in the first place when he originally
broached the subject of male chastity with his partner.
The area of male chastity can cover a lot of ground, anywhere from
permanent orgasm denial to mild chastity play. Both he and she need to decide
where on this wide spectrum their interests happen to lay.
From a man’s point of view, spending a week in a chastity device might be entirely too long. From the woman’s perspective, a month would be a good starting point, moving upwards from there.
Let’s get one common misconception out of the way from the get-go. A male
will suffer no permanent psychological or physical damage by being denied an
orgasm for a lengthy period of time. At some point, any build up in the
prostrate will take care of itself by the way of an involuntary discharge.
That’s what a wet-dream is.
For couples who prefer to spice things up a bit, there are always scheduled
prostrate milkings and ruined orgasms; erotic subjects of their very own more
suited for another time and place.
If he has in mind just some mild chastity play, then she should be prepared
for the possibility of him trying to top from the bottom along with some
bitching and whining when he hasn’t been allowed to cum for three days.
This type of high maintenance and bullshit behavior on his part usually doesn’t
make male chastity worth her time and effort.
On the other end of the male chastity spectrum, permanent orgasm denial
probably won’t be appropriate for most couples, at least not at the beginning of his
male chastity training anyway.
In reality, the man that has requested to have his orgasms denied by his
partner needs and actually wants her to exercise some firm but loving control
over the situation. He will require that his limits be pushed beyond what he
thinks he is capable of.
For example, if he agrees to go a week without any type of release, then she
should extend that time to ten days or maybe even two weeks in a male
chastity device. It’s then important that she emphatically sticks to to that predetermined time frame, with no questioning, begging, whining or recourse allowed on his part.
Her steadfast resolve will fulfill his deep-seated desire to be told ‘NO’
while at the same time will free herself of the tedious task of frequently
getting him in and out of his chastity device and then having to deal with the
annoying administration of his orgasms.
The longer the male is denied, the longer he will be able to maintain the
anticipation of sexually serving the female that he so secretly craves.
The longer the male is denied, the longer she can reap the emotional and
physical rewards that naturally come with keeping her male chaste, all the while
keeping her work-load to a bare minimum.
So to answer the question posed in the title of this article, how often
should he be allowed to cum?
Initially, longer than he thinks is reasonable. Eventually he will come to
the realization that the definition of ‘reasonable’ is best left up to her.
Orgasm denial for extended periods of time can be best achieved by requiring
him to wear a male chastity device. You can find a nice one by clicking here.