Cuckold training refers to practical exercises and practices to ensure your cuckold learns and appreciates his role, understands what’s expected of him and last, but not least, provides additional avenues of enjoyment for his wife and bull cuckolding.
There are several aspects of training a cuckold that have to be explored and while each and every couple has variations to their needs and interests, there are several areas which need to be addressed in some way for each cuckold couple.
Because the rolls of bull and Dom are different, as I define them, I will refer to the role of the outside male as the ‘stud’.
For those who haven’t read my definitions, a bull is primarily only interested/involved sexually whereas a Dom is an experienced dominant who is prepared to explore this lifestyle on a deeper level. Doms can be bulls, but not the other way around.
cuckolds must learn to accept their lack of control over their wife’s sexuality
cuckolds must learn to accept their lack of control of their own genitals
cuckolds must not expect sex (intercourse) on their terms
cuckolds must adopt proper behavior toward their wife’s stud
discipline is not the same as punishment
discipline reinforces both the dominant and submissive roles
Establishing reward/intimacy mechanisms
cuckolds need and deserve attention
cuckolds need to not be in control of how that attention is expressed
I understand that the material I present here may present a challenge to many couples in terms of implementing them on their own and I expect that, but want you to have a better understanding of it.
When it comes to implementing such training, a wife must either be in an assertive position with her cuckold or have assistance through the support of her stud.
Most wives find it much more erotic for their stud to take an active role in training her cuckold.
Establishing Extra Expectations
By definition, a cuckold’s wife is free to make her own choices about her sexual partners. In relationships with studs, she may have given him that authority.
For most cuckolds, it’s even more erotic for their stud to choose who else, if anyone, may enjoy the intimacy of being inside her, but either way, that control is not her husband’s.
Cuckolds may try to bargain with their wife to restrict her choices and that’s ok, to an extent; extra consideration should always be used when considering a coworker or friend to include in your lifestyle play, but outside those types of considerations.
The cuckold should have limited input on who has intimate access to his wife’s pleasures.
A cuckold is a non-traditional role of accepting and supporting his wife’s intimacy with other men. Therefore, we cannot allow him to enjoy the symbols of masculinity in the same way wives prefer their cuckolds sexually.
This means requiring the cuckold to seek permission to do things with his own body that a non-cuckold would take for granted.
A cuckold husband must.…
never touch himself in the presence of others without permission
consent to having his penis treated as a toy rather than a sex organ
In many cases, wives avoid exciting their husband for fear he’ll want sex if she does. In relationships where sex isn’t satisfying between you and your husband, you understand what I mean.
As soon as you establish that sex cannot be expected merely because they have an erection, you are opening the door to increased physical contact and intimacy.
Even though your husband may find it annoying to be teased and left twitching often, you’ll find he prefers such treatment to enjoy the sensation of your touch and the satisfaction of pleasing you with his penis.
It also replaces the intimacy lost by the cuckold when intercourse is restricted.
Why restrict intercourse? It’s a complex issue and though most cuckolds will tell you they would never ask to have their sexual access to their own wife restricted, virtually all of them will agree that it heightened the experience for both them and their wife when it’s done.
The role of a cuckold can be regulated in many ways, including passively or actively.
Examples of passive methods:
specifying that the cuckold can only be inside his wife after her Bull
specifying a particular day in the week/month or even year he is allowed sex
Specifying a ratio: every time the wife enjoys coupling with her stud, the husband gets to do the same. a 3:1 ratio or more is recommended.
a roll of dice can determine a number which is then used to determine:
the number of times she can enjoy extramarital sex before allowing her cuckold
the number of days the cuckold must wait before being allowed intercourse
Examples of active methods:
requiring the cuckold to call the stud to ask permission
having to ask in person for permission
Confining the penis of a husband until it is permissible to have sex with him through physical chastity
One or more of these methods can be applied to establish expectations for both husband & wife as well as their stud, be he Dom or bull.
A cuckold can at least anticipate when he will receive his reward for being supportive by using these methods.
The wife must give him what he’s due at the appointed time, just as the cuckold must wait according to the rules.
Respecting a wife’s stud is not only expected due to the cuckold’s role, but can also add greatly to a stud’s level of comfort with that role.
A stud should always earn the respect of the couple they are with, so if yours does not, get rid of him.